Finding the ceremony site of your dreams!
You’re engaged, you’ve settled your budget, and you’ve chosen the time of year you’d ideally like to get married. Next up: Finding the ceremony site of your dreams! When it comes to scouting the place you’ll exchange your precious vows, there are many things you need to keep in mind. From guest capacity to remembering to make reservations for the rehearsal too, our etiquette experts outline everything you need to ask when you’re visiting a potential ceremony location.
The questions you ask when scouting a ceremony site completely depend on the type of ceremony you wish to have. As you can imagine, holding your ceremony at a religious venue will hold more restrictions than an outdoor garden. If you are thinking about a church or temple, you’ll want to ask about any clothing restrictions (are you allowed to have bare shoulders?), how much of your ceremony you’re allowed to customize (like vows or speakers), and if communion or a chuppah will be provided for you. Other things you might want to think about are photography and videography (if it’s allowed, and where they can stand during the ceremony), if music is provided by the location when you should meet with the organist or choir director or if you’re allowed to bring outside music in, and what additional fees come with choosing this facility (i.e. if you choose to use a church’s organist or a temple’s cantor do you have to pay them separately or a fee for their services)
More general things you’ll want to check are if you’re allowed to decorate and what restrictions go along with that process. When the florist can come to set up and if there’s a good spot for them to deliver everything, plus how will everything be disposed following the ceremony. Whether there are any weddings the same day as yours, if there’s a room for the bride and groom to get ready before the ceremony, what the parking situation is like (especially for the car that will carry the bride and groom), and if you can throw rose petals,confetti or seeds following the ceremony. And, of course, when you choose to book don’t forget to reserve the location for the rehearsal the night before, too!