Destination wedding etiquette: Do and Don’t
DO TREAT YOUR WEDDING WEBSITE LIKE A MINI GUIDEBOOK
Your wedding website is your guests’ link to the locale. Include information on your site about lodging options, along with a list of rental-car companies (if a car is necessary) and public-transit schedules. Also include dress-code information and a roster of things they won—t want to leave home without, such as sneakers (if you have any hikes or nature walks planned), or sunscreen It’s a nice and organized way to lend a helping hand while giving them a sneak peek at the events you’re planning.
DON’T PRESSURE YOUR GUESTS TO ATTEND
No destination, day, or time will ever be perfect for everyone. With destination affairs, about 50 percent of people invited say yes. Plan accordingly and be understanding of those who can’t attend, letting them know that you absolutely understand. After all, you don’t want anyone to feel obligated to attend, especially since it’s likely that they’ll have to spend much more than they would if you were getting married locally.
DO GIVE GUESTS SEVERAL OPTIONS FOR ACCOMMODATIONS
Offer hotel choices and everyone’s comfort levels—and budgets—are taken into account. Make the options clear on your website, and be sure everyone feels included no matter where they are, by arranging activities and transportation at each location.
DON’T FEEL OBLIGATED TO INVITE CHILDREN
But be sure to let guests know it’s fine if they bring their kids along for the ride—a lot of invitees, after all, will want to make a family vacation while they are there. To help them and to make your life easier, coordinate babysitting services . Address your invites for the ceremony and reception to the adults only, then note on your wedding website that “babysitting can be arranged for your convenience.”
DO STOCK GUESTS’ ROOMS
A few bottles of water and a handful of snacks that satisfy guests’ sweet and salty cravings is a thoughtful touch. A map, notebook and pen, or a small guidebook are also fun and thoughtful presents.
DON’T ACT LIKE A CRUISE DIRECTOR
You absolutely can provide something for your guests to do every day, but it’s really a matter of your own preference. At the minimum, have some sort of welcome dinner on the first night so everyone can get acquainted, and provide information about the destination on your website so guests can plan their own activities.
And DO ENJOY