Bridal shower at glance

What it is: A shower is a way of honoring the bride-to-be, and “showering” her with gifts for her new married home. For showers, there are usually three key components: refreshments, fun activities, like games or quizzes and the bride opening her gifts in front of her guests.

Who hosts: Classic etiquette rules state that the bride’s mum or sister isn’t supposed to host the shower, but these days, many mums and sisters do act as hostesses for these fun festivities, and it’s really a personal decision. You might find that a relative offers to host one shower for you, and a friend offers to host a different, more laid-back bash, where you can invite your pals. Sometimes, co-workers will throw you a shower too. It’s completely fine to have multiple showers.

Who attends: Usually, it’s close female friends and relatives—just how big the guest list is it’s up to you and your host. But the same rule goes for the shower as goes for the other pre-wedding parties: Don’t invite anyone you won’t invite to the actual wedding. There is only one exception – an office shower. It is understood that you may not be able to invite all your co-workers to the wedding.

Why have it: Not only does a shower provide the couple with things that can make their newly-wed house more of a home, it’s another opportunity to socialize with family and friends.

When to do it: Two to six months before the wedding is the ideal time, Keep it spaced out from your wedding date, that way, guests don’t feel like they’re going to too many wedding events in a row.

Good to know: The bride absolutely must write a thank-you note to each guest, and it should be personalized.