Bachelorette party: planning basics
Who hosts? Anyone can host a bachelorette party. Often the maid of honour and bridesmaids, who are close to the bride, do the honours, but any friend, relative (a cousin, for example), or even co-workers who feel the urge can plan this party.
The Guest List? Shower guests must all be invited to the wedding, but this isn’t necessarily true for bachelorette parties. Chances are that most bachelorette party guests – who are generally the bride’s best gal pals – are wedding guests too, but it’s fine to invite co-workers or neighbours who may not be invited to a small or out-of-town wedding. Just be up front with them about your limited wedding guest list — you don’t want to disappoint any well-wishers. It’s usually best to keep this party pretty small — definitely under 20, and under 10 is probably ideal.
Decide on a Date Steer. As we mention before, you have to stay away from the night before the wedding as you already know that night is reserved for the rehearsal dinner. We previously said to time from two months before the wedding and one week before it is the ideal time to schedule a night off with your gal pal’s, especially as during that time you will need a break and stress release from wedding planning 🙂
Plan Ahead- One person can plan the entire bash, or several people (like the bridesmaids or the clique from college) can collaborate. Some bachelorette hosts ask for a donation from each guest or co-host, depending on the type of party — whether you’re renting a private room in a restaurant or taking everyone for an afternoon of spa treatments, for example. That contribution may range from $50 to $200, but the bride shouldn’t have to contribute a dime. Be reasonable and don’t go overboard — you needn’t put yourself in debt over this. A fabulous time can be had by all for little money.
Spread the Word – Store-bought invitations will do, or make your own with a desktop publishing program or paper, scissors, pens, and glue. Choose or design with a theme in mind, even if it’s as simple as the bride’s favourite colour. Some hostesses forgo official invitations and just call guests a few weeks before the wedding – it all depends on the type of party you’re planning. If you need to make reservations for a show or other activity, you’ll probably want guests to officially RSVP. If you’ll be hanging out at the corner bar, scrap the invites – a phone call is probably fine.
Party Time – Bachelorette parties are more laid-back and less structured than traditional bridal showers. There is no “typical” bash, though what usually comes to mind is a group of giggling girls dragging the bride from bar to bar (maybe encountering a sexy male stripper along the way) and making her blush in public. You can paint the town red if that’s your style (or, more importantly, the bride’s). But there are lots of other ways to celebrate -a nice dinner at someone’s house or a favourite restaurant, low-key dancing at a cool club, a concert (maybe Prince is in town and the bride absolutely adores him) – the list is endless. The point is to reminisce, laugh, act goofy, and embarrass the bride at least a little (phallic props like wind-up mini penises are hilarious – as long as she won’t get completely offended!).
Tokens of Appreciation – The bachelorette party is not a gift party in the same way a bridal shower is – presents are not necessary. That said, this is a great opportunity for guests to give the bride silly gifts – or even sexy ones (like the lingerie that was just too risqué for the shower). You might ask everyone to bring a gag gift (one guest we know presented the bride with a glamorous red wig to wear all night) or something hot – a book about fabulous sex complete with diagrams, or perhaps a how-to video! Regression is another option – give her candy necklaces or rings, bubbles, glitter, or a water gun. The goal is for the bride and her guests to just have fun before the wedding.