Wedding party duties: Mother of the Bride

The Mother of the Bride, aside from the fact that the she is your mum your whole life and she was there for you in every part of your life, you have to know that you can’t expect her to be a wonder woman who’ll organize and do everything for your wedding day – no! She will have some duties but the rest of the time she needs to be with you as mum to her child, not wedding planner and bride! And it should be:

Before the Wedding:

– Help the Bride and Groom source out ceremony and wedding reception sites and ask friends/family for vendor recommendations.

– Help the Bride choose her wedding dress

– Compile and submit names and addresses of your family and friends to be included on the master guest list.

– Talk to the groom’s family regarding who they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests, if necessary.

– Help research family or ethnic traditions and heirlooms to incorporate into the ceremony or reception.

– Be the RVSP Contact

– Attend the rehearsal dinner, bridal shower and hen party if you are invited.

– Assist in choosing the Bride’s and Bridesmaid’s dresses and attend dress fittings

Be honest, but not cutting; liaise with the Maid of Honour to ensure the Bride has everything she needs.

The Wedding Day

1. Morning:

– ensure that breakfast is had by all, especially the Bride

– receive the photographer, videographer and make-up artist into your home

– receive all flowers, gifts, cards or telegrams – the latter should be passed to the Best Man

– try to make the morning as stress free as possible

2. Getting Ready

– assist Bridesmaids with their dresses and make overs – if they are young, a quiet, non-messy activity would be ideal

– assist the Maid of Honor with her hair, make-up and gown as required

– get yourself ready

– be on hand to help get your daughter ready

– co-ordinate uses of hair dresser and make-up artist

– co-ordinate getting the right people into their transport to the Wedding

– accompany the Bridesmaids and Maid of Honor to the Wedding Ceremony

3. At the Ceremony:

– spend a final moment with your Daughter

– give your Daughter away

– walk down the aisle, whether accompanied or not

– take part in any of the required photo’s

4. At the Reception:

– stand and greet guests in the Receiving Line

– sit at the head table or Parent Table at the Reception

– dance with the Father of the Bride during formal first-dance sequence

– dance with the Groom during formal first-dance sequence