Wedding party duties: Flower girl
The Flower girl, usually an adorable little lady aged three to eight, proceeds down the aisle just before the Maid of Honour, scattering rose petals along the bridal path. She follows the ring bearer (if there is one), and sometimes she will even precede the Bride. Traditionally, she totes a basket full of petals, but other alternatives include wrapped candies or confetti. Also, instead of scattering the aforementioned items, she can carry a single bloom, a pomander (a lush ball of flowers), or blow bubbles. For you this small task is just a few steps and scattering, but for a little girl it can be really confusing, yes they like to be the centre of attention, but this is still huge responsibility for them. So her are a few tips and tricks to make them comfortable so they can be cute but not scared by a bunch of non familiar faces 🙂
– Having two flower girls or pairing up ring bearer and flower girl so that they can proceed together, side by side, can be really nice to see but it is also a good buddy system as partnering will give them added confidence.
– If possible, arrange to have the Flower girl attend the shower and/or the bridesmaids’ lunch (if the Bride is having one) to boost her comfort level around the other (bigger) bridal attendants. Seeing friendly, familiar faces on the big day will help to ease any anxiety.
– Seat the Flower girl’s parents toward the front of the ceremony so she can focus on them and be encouraged by their smiles of reassurance. A very young Flower girl should sit with her parents after she walks; poised little ladies may stand at the altar with the other bridal attendants.
– Keep in mind that having children in the ceremony means there’s only so much one can control. Rest assured that whatever the Flower girl does (cries, drops the basket, lifts up her dress…), her personality and preciousness will make the guests smile.